One of the biggest accomplishments in life is to fall madly in love with yourself.
Not in a superficial, artificial, narcissistic way, because that’s not real love. But true love, in every shape and every form. Falling deeply in love with every part of you – good, bad, ugly and unchangeable – is really hard.
But it’s everything.
It’s the most important relationship you’ll ever have. But most of us don’t pay attention to it because we’re too focused on feeling it elsewhere. We don’t look within, because we’re too afraid of what we’ll find.
But the truth is, you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else. Otherwise, the love you give another is in place of the love you owe yourself… not in addition to it. And that fractioned affection isn’t good for anyone.
There isn’t an easy fix or simple solution. It takes some work. I’ve learned that it starts with Intention (the decision to do), then comes to life with Awareness (self awareness of who you are, what drives you, what you’re proud of, what you regret) and blossoms with Acceptance (accepting the things you can’t change, and changing the things you can).
When you get those 3 things in place, then the love affair can begin.
Love yourself first.
Everyone else comes next.
Happy Valentines Day.
That’s what’s necessary.
That’s what’s required to truly assess the circumstance, understand the obstacle, and embrace the opportunity. It’s what’s needed to learn the environment and create the vision.
Touch, see, hear, feel, taste. Literally and metaphorically. All five. You have to be completely turned on to live your biggest life and do your greatest work.
Step outside your safe circle, and everything changes.
Parts of the view appear the same, but your entire perspective is rearranged.
Your priorities shift as you step and search and seek. All the angles and issues and opportunities and feelings instantly evolve.
When you take action that is uncomfortable and unconventional and scary, you lose the security of familiar footing.
But you feel the freedom of untouched air. And that is the only way you can fly…
Make your move.
I don’t believe in the whole “work smarter, not harder” concept.
The two are not mutually exclusive.
You damn sure should work smartly – begin with the end in mind, have clear success measures, and an even clearer strategy.
But then, work your ass off.
If you don’t love it, keep grinding until you discover something you do.
Opportunities don’t just come, you have to create them.
And the single biggest way to do that is by working really, really hard.
Sometimes I have to remind myself that “living clean” isn’t just choosing veggies and juices over dairy and gluten.
The ultimate form of cleansing forces us to self-scrub all of our choices, from diet to actions to thoughts.
And eliminate the drugs, downers and distractions that drip dirt on our most daring dreams… Much easier said than done.
I’m still very much a work in progress. But the great thing is, we are all in this together.
Let’s keep rinsing.