The biggest accomplishment in life is to fall madly in love with yourself.
Not in a superficial, artificial, narcissistic way, because that’s not real love. But true love, in every shape and every form.
Falling deep in love with every part of you – the good, the bad, the ugly and the unchangeable – is really hard. In fact, it’s damn near impossible. But it’s everything… It’s the most important relationship you’ll ever have, yet most of us often overlook it because we’re too focused on feeling it elsewhere.
We don’t look within, because we’re too afraid of what we’ll find. We’re so damn harsh on ourselves…
But the truth is, you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else. Otherwise, the love you give them is in place of the love you owe yourself… not in addition to it. And that fractioned affection is no good to anyone.
Love yourself first. Everyone else comes next.
Grateful for the highs, lows and all the spaces and places in between.
Keep believing, keep working and keep going. It’s not about the wins and losses. And it’s not even about getting to a specific position or reaching a certain height, because those points are always moving. The playbook is always changing. The bar is always rising, and, if you want to be great, you’re usually the one pushing it higher…
So it’s not about reaching the top or claiming any trophy. The process is the prize. The journey. You gotta fall in love with it – even on its angry days; even when it leads you to uncomfortable turns and pushes you to dark places.
Because no matter how ugly or different or long or challenging the path, it’s YOURS. All of it.
So, through it all, try to be thankful for those steps. Be grateful for that journey. That’s true happiness.
One of my core philosophies is to reverse-engineer everything.
Work backwards, beginning with the intended result, starting with the vision you want to manifest. Then, piece the steps together.
It’s a simple strategy, but one that’s too often overlooked and underutilized. We did it with our brand, building Besomebody around a feeling first – from the inside out – through content and community, and then creating the product around it. We’re doing it with education now, beginning with employers and open jobs, and building curriculums and launching training Paths based on those job requirements. And I personally try to do it every day, as a way of life.
Know where you want to be, and begin every morning with that end in mind.
No matter what you’re doing or where you’re going, the first step is ALWAYS the hardest.
Making the initial move. Taking the opening action. Getting off the freaking couch…
Thinking and talking and listening and learning and wondering and wishing all have their place. But the one thing that ignites EVERYTHING is our own decision to DO.
The first step is the hardest… Take it.
Dreams aren’t free.
There’s always a price to pay. There’s a cost for the cause, and a charge for the reward. There’s a tax on the journey and a tariff on the Vision. Ambition ain’t cheap. You gotta pay the premium. And there is no discount for the sweat you put down and the sacrifices you deposit. No refunds or exchanges. You cannot reimburse your mileage…
But, no matter how big the bill, if you want it bad enough; if it calls deeply enough; if it commands and demands; then, it’s ALWAYS worth the investment.