I don’t believe in being “realistic.”
Realistic is just a limit we allow others to place on our own dreams.
It’s someone else’s boundary.
It’s another person’s fears and experiences and insecurities, spoken as an absolute truth.
But your truth is what you define it to be.
Your path is what you decide it to be.
And if you have the belief, the passion and the work ethic, you can create anything…
But first, you have to stop being realistic.
Greatness is a lonely road.
Most people don’t want to be great.
Because it’s harder. And harsher. And more inconvenient.
It demands too much of your time and requires too much of your attention.
It is big and loud and needy.
It’s a beautiful masterpiece that people would rather stare at from a distance than paint with their own hands.
Watch, and not touch.
Admire, not unleash…
When you choose greatness you instantly downsize your ability to connect and converge and communicate with the majority of the people around you.
Because you stop speaking “average.” And stop accepting “ok.” And “nice” becomes just too damn low of a bar.
Most people would rather play it safe and simple and stationary than take the steps necessary to spark their unlit soul.
And when you choose greatness, you’re always burning. Blazing. A fearless flame…
The decision to be great – to live your greatness, your best and most passionate life – is lonesome.
But keep going…
It’s not about winning.
It’s about how you react when you lose. How you improve and evolve and grow.
It’s about learning to take a punch and some shoves and a few cheap shots, and then becoming a better fighter.
It’s about manufacturing your own toughness while manifesting your own vision. All while getting your ass kicked.
Failure is not only part of the path, it’s the pavement.
Losing is the only way.
The key is to keep going despite the defeats. Sounds simple enough, but most people stop way too soon, and far too short. Just keep moving.
That’s how you get to where you want to go.
Grateful for the highs, lows and all the spaces and places in between.
Keep believing, keep working and keep going. It’s not about the wins and losses. And it’s not even about getting to a specific position or reaching a certain height, because those points are always moving. The playbook is always changing. The bar is always rising, and, if you want to be great, you’re usually the one pushing it higher…
So it’s not about reaching the top or claiming any trophy. The process is the prize. The journey. You gotta fall in love with it – even on its angry days; even when it leads you to uncomfortable turns and pushes you to dark places.
Because no matter how ugly or different or long or challenging the path, it’s YOURS. All of it.
So, through it all, try to be thankful for those steps. Be grateful for that journey. That’s true happiness.