We often get our “passion” and our “purpose” confused.
I used to think about this a lot, especially as I got older and started to advance in my career. I wanted my decisions to be more linked to passion and purpose, but I wasn’t clear on either.
Were they the same thing? How do you define them? What’s the difference?…
It took me a lot of learning and exploring and failing and finding to discover the simple answer to that confusing question:
Your passion is about YOU. It’s about what you love.
Your purpose has NOTHING to do with you. It’s about what you do for OTHERS.
And when you’re able to sync them seamlessly together – pouring your time and energy and effort into what you love in order to create something meaningful for others – that’s when you become your greatest self. That’s when you give your greatest gift.
But not just the ‘nice to look at’ kind of beauty… A deeper kind.
The kind that touches you in an instant but speaks to you for a lifetime. The kind that finds dreams in the darkness and feeds truth in the light. The kind that stems from realness and rawness and an indescribable desire to give MORE.
More to yourself, more to others, more to the world.
The kind of beauty that transforms strangers into soulmates, and turns a community into a Calling.
Beauty that comes in different shapes and shades and sizes, but feels the same through shared eyes.
Beauty that’s a vision to create, and a passion to call home…
Beauty that lasts. Beauty you take with you.
Beauty that you love so much, you long to give it away.
Grateful as always for the highs, lows and all the spaces and places in between.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years it’s that you just gotta keep going.
Keep moving, keep working, keep believing.
Don’t stop, don’t listen.
Follow your vision off a cliff and hit the ground running.
The journey is the gift and the process is the prize. Your passion is the fuel.
And when you learn to willingly and willfully give more than you get, then you are truly grateful; then you are truly happy.
So keep going. It’s a lifestyle, not a destination.
Big things aren’t built overnight. Nothing of value ever comes quick and easy. And the stuff that matters most often takes the most time to develop.
You have to be restlessly patient.
Relentless in the moment; moving with speed, purpose, and urgency. But calm, composed and calculated toward your Vision.
That healthy tension and uncomfortable balance between constant motion in the moment and stillness as the vision unfolds is a learned skill that few people possess.
But you need it – and you need to nurture it – if you want to build the biggest of your big dreams.
We all have fears. And insecurities. “Don’t be scared” is like saying “don’t breathe.”
Those feelings are part of what makes us human. And all of us have our own scale; our own tiers, and thresholds, and tolerance levels.
These are very personal emotions… It’s not about denying those feelings.
And it’s sure as hell not about ignoring them.
It’s just about how we handle them. How we recognize them. How we speak to them, and how we send them on their way.
And most of all, it’s about not letting them control us.
Get to know your fears, and work to understand your insecurities.
It’s the only way to become your best you.
Your personal passion is your most valuable asset.
Not your house. Not your car. Not the suits in your closet or the jewelry around your neck.
But your passion. What you love.
And that wild, crazy, unclear-to-everyone-but-unquestionable-to-you belief in the power of that passion. And that undying internal drive you have to work your freaking ass off to somehow, some way, WILL it into existence…
To manifest it from your mind and share it from your soul… That decision to give in to yourself so you can gift it to the world.
That one thing. That one feeling. That one purpose. That passion… If you decide to unleash it.
No bullshit, no shortcuts, no excuses. No “next times”, “next years” or “not yets.”
Then I promise you. I promise you… You can do ANYTHING.
The biggest accomplishment in life is to fall madly in love with yourself.
Not in a superficial, artificial, narcissistic way, because that’s not real love. But true love, in every shape and every form.
Falling deep in love with every part of you – the good, the bad, the ugly and the unchangeable – is really hard. In fact, it’s damn near impossible. But it’s everything… It’s the most important relationship you’ll ever have, yet most of us often overlook it because we’re too focused on feeling it elsewhere.
We don’t look within, because we’re too afraid of what we’ll find. We’re so damn harsh on ourselves…
But the truth is, you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else. Otherwise, the love you give them is in place of the love you owe yourself… not in addition to it. And that fractioned affection is no good to anyone.
Love yourself first. Everyone else comes next.
Probably one of the most unheralded, underrated elements of success. Few people have the determination – and discipline – to lock their eyes on their prize, and stay relentlessly fixated on it, no matter what noise and distractions come their way.
No matter how many shiny objects dance on their periphery.
No matter what mirage or treasure or temptations whisper from beside and behind them.
The ability to stare straight at your vision, and work towards what you see… that’s powerful.
It doesn’t mean you won’t change course, because you’ll have to, dozens of times.
It just means you know where you’re headed, and you’re willing to aim every bit of your energy in that direction.
You will never grow standing still.
You need to move. You need to see different places. You need to experience different things.
You need to shake hands and share laughs with people who look nothing like you.
You need to learn to ride foreign subways and wander unfamiliar streets.
For sure, “travel” is the ideal. It’s amazing – better than any Ivy League education. I learned more in my travels in the US and abroad than in any other scenario or setting (46 countries and 48 states of lessons). It’s always-on inspiration. Your senses come alive and your mind is turned on. Your creative juices erupt and flow.
But I know we all can’t hop on a plane whenever we want. And that’s ok.
If you can’t visit another country, go see another state. If you can’t see a new state, drive to another city. If you can’t do that, jog to another neighborhood. If that’s not possible, walk to a different corner of your driveway…. whatever you do, just MOVE.
This world has so much depth and so many layers. To really see it, to really appreciate its beauty and understand its pain, you have to view it from different angles.
There’s nothing more powerful than your decision to decide.
Decide what you want.
Decide how bad you want it.
Decide how far you’ll go and how much you’re willing to go through.
Decide where you belong, what you believe, and who you believe in.
Decide who you are, and who you want to become.
Those decisions – when certain, sustained, and purpose-driven – send shockwaves into the universe. Invisible arrows shot into a welcoming sky, targeting your passions and carving out your path. Piercing through all the “somedays” and excuses. Cutting to the chase.
It starts with the smallest of steps – those subtle yet forceful intentions – and builds as you go.
There is only one thing to do today… DECIDE.