“Thank you God for this opportunity. Thank you God for the chance to create this dream.”
Good days or bad days, I begin and end every day with this simple bit of gratitude.
When we choose to live gratefully, we unlock our happiness, heighten our self-awareness and ignite our sense of urgency.
I’ve learned that the strongest arguments are made with the softest voice.
You don’t have to be loud to be powerful.
You don’t have to yell to prove a point.
You don’t have to debate, or dispute, or defend.
You just have to believe…
If YOU know it, and YOU believe it, no one can ever take it from you.
There’s no need to fight for something that’s already yours.
Believe it yourself.
Believe IN yourself.
And then, a whisper will do just fine.
If you hate your job, leave it.
If you have a vision, believe in it.
If you have an idea, start building it.
Don’t waste time waiting and wishing and wondering.
The first step is the hardest. Take it.
And then, no matter how many times that unknown road smacks you in the face, keep going…
You’ll be amazed at where you end up.
Please do not believe everything you read or accept everything you hear.
Choose to explore with your own feet and discover with your own eyes.
Ask tough questions and admit harsh answers.
Find the ugly truth and clean it with your own hands.
Honor your own senses…
Don’t let the veil of your fears blind you from the view of your heart…
When we stop accepting the noise and the nonsense around us, we start changing the world.
You can move if you want to.
You can rearrange the places and change the directions.
You can stop, and stand, and fight.
You can create the compass as you go.
This is your canvas.
This is your dream.
You hold the keys, and you own the lock.
When you decide to go ALL IN on your passion, there can’t be any turning back.
Or you won’t get there.
With each step that you take, you have to burn the bridge behind you.
Set fire to the fears and excuses and bullshit and false promises and insecurities and inactions and everything else that’s held you captive for so long.
There’s only one way: forward.
Forward toward that big, crazy dream. Your passion… And if you believe it. If you work your ass off for it. If you go ALL IN on it. You will reach it.
Gratitude is an action.
And gratefulness comes from discovery.
It comes from seeing things and doing things and experiencing things; witnessing how so many people get by with so little.
It’s the understanding that, while many have more, more have less, and if we take true stock of what WE have… it’s always more than enough.
And the real beauty of gratitude – of gratefulness – is that it’s the most powerful key to happiness.
When you’re thankful, you’re happy… It’s as simple as that.
What you learn is important.
Who you learn from is everything.
You have to learn from the best to be the best.
Skills, habits, hacks, attitude, mentality…. all of that can be passed from expert to apprentice, mentor to mentee, and teacher to student.
At Besomebody, we have a strong point of view on education.
We’re building a platform to make it more affordable, practical and passion-based. We are focusing on skills, and we want to help people get jobs. And the entire time we’ve been building, we’ve been learning too, from the best.
In the last 18 months I’ve had the chance to learn from some of the most inspiring educators from some of the world’s most prestigious colleges – Harvard, Princeton, MIT, Rice, Penn State, Columbia and, today, Stanford. There’s no question that the gold standard for learning is still America’s top-tier universities.
Those schools give you much more than a classroom; the entire college EXPERIENCE enables multi-sensorial growth and a lifetime of opportunities.
But not everyone can go to those schools. (The Ivy League, for example, represents just 0.1% of all undergraduate college students).
And many of those who CAN get into the top schools can’t afford it. The cost of college is more expensive than ever.
Others just don’t want to get saddled with decades of student debt. And some people have different learning styles and different needs and different circumstances.
So what are their options?
There are about 7.5 million people going to community college in the U.S. The average annual cost for tuition at a community college is about $10,000.
For-profit schools – schools like ITT Tech – are much worse. Nearly 2 million people pay $25K a year in tuition for these schools with awful graduation and job placement rates.
And neither of the above two options – community colleges and for-profit schools – give those nearly 10 million people that “college experience” that we all agree is important.
The data clearly shows that they leave you in debt, and unemployed. We are building a new model – with input from experts like those here at Stanford – with our Besomebody Paths that we believe can be a part of the solution.
One of the biggest accomplishments in life is to fall madly in love with yourself.
Not in a superficial, artificial, narcissistic way, because that’s not real love. But true love, in every shape and every form. Falling deeply in love with every part of you – good, bad, ugly and unchangeable – is really hard.
But it’s everything.
It’s the most important relationship you’ll ever have. But most of us don’t pay attention to it because we’re too focused on feeling it elsewhere. We don’t look within, because we’re too afraid of what we’ll find.
But the truth is, you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else. Otherwise, the love you give another is in place of the love you owe yourself… not in addition to it. And that fractioned affection isn’t good for anyone.
There isn’t an easy fix or simple solution. It takes some work. I’ve learned that it starts with Intention (the decision to do), then comes to life with Awareness (self awareness of who you are, what drives you, what you’re proud of, what you regret) and blossoms with Acceptance (accepting the things you can’t change, and changing the things you can).
When you get those 3 things in place, then the love affair can begin.
Love yourself first.
Everyone else comes next.
Happy Valentines Day.
That’s what’s necessary.
That’s what’s required to truly assess the circumstance, understand the obstacle, and embrace the opportunity. It’s what’s needed to learn the environment and create the vision.
Touch, see, hear, feel, taste. Literally and metaphorically. All five. You have to be completely turned on to live your biggest life and do your greatest work.